My wife is a miner.
She’s always mining my business!

Sometimes, I mine hers — but then she gets irritated.
Yet somehow, it’s perfectly fine for her to mine mine!

If I had known she was a Democrat, maybe I’d have been more careful. 😄
This is what I call the mindedness of double standards.

Only she gets to do both without question.
If I do the same, I get in trouble.

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The Mystery of Becoming One

I was always a bit skeptical about that passage in Scripture that says:

“A man shall leave his family and become one with his wife.”

Now, I understand basic addition and subtraction.
If two things become one, what happens to the other one?
Which of the two became the “one”… or did one become none?

In my case, it’s quite clear. My wife became the one.
At least from my point of view—and actual experience!

In our world, 1 + 1 = 2.
But God says otherwise.
In His math, 1 + 1 = 1.

So, the big question is: Which one?

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Are You the One… or the None?

Let’s test this a bit. In your marriage:

• Who gets the window seat on an airplane?
• Who picks the restaurant?
• Who chooses what to wear?
• Whose idea usually wins in a disagreement?

If your spouse’s preferences prevail, then your spouse is “the one.”
And you, my friend… are “none.”

If your spouse gets their way most of the time at home,
then you’re not just outnumbered — you’re out-oned!

When you’re no longer in the picture,
you’re not half the equation—you’re just “none.”

At that point, some of us might as well become priests or nuns! 😂
None, Nun… get it?

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The Real Meaning of Oneness

Humor aside, becoming “one” with another is more profound than I realized.

It takes:

• A lot of forgiveness
• A lot of patience
• A lot of sacrifice
• And a whole lot of willingness to yield

To truly become one, you must deny yourself and surrender to the will of another.
I didn’t fully grasp that when I said “I do.”
Back then, I was thinking more with my flesh than with my faith!

But now, I see:
To be one with another requires grace, humility, and spiritual maturity.

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When the “One” Dominates

In my case, my wife tends to be the dominant one.
She may disagree, but hey — I’m just calling it like I see it.

Sometimes, my ideas get shut down.
And while I’ve learned to put up with it,
maybe the time has come for me to yield completely.

After all, didn’t God say that to lay down your life for another
is an act of love worthy of Him?

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God’s Blueprint for Marriage

So, before you dive into marriage,
be mindful of who becomes the one.

God’s design isn’t for one to disappear—
but for both to be visible and become stronger together.

In His plan, oneness means unity, not domination.
It’s two hearts beating as one — not one heart beating for two.

When both husband and wife act, think, and love as one in faith and purpose,
that’s when the divine equation of marriage truly balances.

“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
— Mark 10:9

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Final Thought

Becoming one with your spouse means more than living under the same roof.
It’s living under the same grace — with love, respect, patience, and laughter.

So, to all the “nones” out there, take heart.
If you love as Christ loved the Church,
you’re already fulfilling your part of the equation.

And to all the “ones”… remember to shine that light of compassion
on your other half — so both can truly be one in God.