My wife and I have something very much in common — we both love sushi and sashimi.
That’s just a fancy way of saying we enjoy tuna, salmon, and other fish… raw!

Of course, it’s pricier than your average meal if you’re dining out, but it’s also something we can prepare ourselves at home. It’s one of those things that reminds me about want versus need. Sure, we can make it ourselves — but sometimes we just go for the easy route, whether it makes sense or not.

When “Two Become One”

This small commonality — our shared love of sushi — made me think: how wonderful it would be if that same togetherness flowed through every part of our relationship.

The Bible says,

“A man shall leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”
— Ephesians 5:31 (NIV)

But when two people become one, which one are we talking about?
Is it more of the wife? More of the husband? Or none of the above?

I say this from experience — sometimes what I say just hits a wall and bounces back to nowhere! I’m not complaining, just reflecting on how real life sometimes differs from the ideal.

The Standards That Shape Us

Every person has their own standard — their personal measure of what’s right, fair, or logical.
But above our human standards, there’s God’s Standard — and when ours differ from His, we’re automatically wrong.

So when God says, “the two become one,” I think He means that our two standards must become His standard.
What I want, and what my wife wants, must equal what God wants.

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The Physical vs. The Spiritual

In the physical world, 1 + 1 = 2.
But in God’s design, spiritually, 1 + 1 = 1.

Marriage isn’t just physical; it’s spiritual.
It’s the uniting of two souls, two minds, and two hearts under one divine truth — God’s will.

Reality is what we can touch and see.
Truth is what we cannot see — and that Truth is God Himself.
Even though we can’t see Him, we know He’s there.

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Harmony and Headship

For harmony to exist in marriage, there can’t be two masters.
The Bible teaches:

“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.”
— Ephesians 5:22 (KJV)

This doesn’t mean women are lesser — it means God set order for peace, not control.
The man is to love his wife as Christ loved the church — sacrificially, tenderly, and faithfully.
The woman is to support and trust that leadership, allowing unity under God’s guidance.

When this order is broken, confusion and conflict take root — just like two captains steering the same ship in opposite directions.

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The Honest Truth About Us

Now, to be transparent — sometimes my wife and I clash. She has her opinions (strong ones!), and I have mine (of course, logical ones). 😄
She asks, “Di ba, Doy?” (Translation-Isn’t it) and of course expecting me to say, “Yeah, Doy.” And many times, I just go along with it. But lately, I’ve been thinking — maybe that’s not helping either of us grow.

Still, I remind myself — maybe God is using these moments to test my patience and refine my love.
After all, love isn’t proven in comfort; it’s proven in resistance.

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Bringing It Back to God

In the end, when husband and wife follow God’s standard, everything else aligns.
It’s easier to agree when God leads.
It’s easier to forgive when God guides.
It’s easier to love when God is love Himself.

So whether it’s sushi, sashimi, or simply sharing life’s daily irritations — may our unity always be more than physical.
May it be spiritual, grounded in the truth that God is the center of all relationships.

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“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
— Mark 10:9 (NIV)